The Bad Gay Writes Down 40 (or so...) Questions. Of millions.
A nice, thick, juicy chunk of musings for the holiday season. Rounda 'bout 40 questions I toyed with at some point or another trying to write a blog that just turned out to be this. Enjoy. -tbg
If a queer theory falls in a forest and an academic isn't around to hear it, does it make a noise? 2. Gay or not--are we even into marriage? (Marriage or not--are we even gay?) 3. Is a civil rights movement a civil rights movement if white men w/money are the chief benefactors and legislative shifters of that movement? 4. How is it possible that we not conspiracy-theorize the emergence of AIDS in the gay community? 5. Is LOGO seriously not going to create programming for anyone other than like, Perez Hilton, Andy Dick and Michelle Williams' second date nights? 6. Why does internalized homophobia sometimes manifest as protecting straight people from our non-straight lives? 7. Everybody knows the NFL (and NBA, and NHL and MLB) are full of gay and bisexual men, right? 8. Do Black pastors realize their music, logistics and leadership are often led by homos, closeted and otherwise—in nearly every church every where? 9. Do school children still giggle when they hear “two moms” or “two dads”? 10. Do teachers still giggle with them? 11. Is it really tolerance when we excuse people's discomfort with our sexuality so long as its done civilly? 12. Are the estimated 8.8 million of us in America (I'ma say 10, personally. Heads be lyin'.) enough to shift the economic, family and education base of this country? 13. Is queerness synonymous with anything concretely homosexual? 14. If we have all these names, words, terms, preferences, shouldn't we be more patient with people "getting it"? 15. Has vanity replaced depression as a coverall in the queer battle of self-acceptance vs. self-hate? 16. Did you also feel gay-pangs early on, even tiny little ones? 17. Don't you hate reading Leviticus? 18. Why do I wince when I see lesbians who look like lesbians when lesbians were totally uncool? (Is that internalized homophobia or assholishness?) 19. Anyone else feel slighted by not coming out in/before college? (So. Much. Action. Poof. Gone.) 20. Why is it totally appropriate to support sex-workers rights and dignity but totally inappropriate to go to the strip club? 21. Do you know anyone who has ever used a dental dam? 22. Why are we so afraid of studs who have sex with cis-men as if that is any less queer/open/bi/real than femmes having sex with men? 23. If enough women lay around and daydream about a communal living land/space at once, it'll emerge on its own, right? 24. Why is Brooklyn understood to be the center of queer black culture while the south is actually serving as the center of lgbtq black homes/families? 25. Why are we scared of each other's nasty-delicious kinks? 26. Why are we pretending bois are the only ones with rules around their body and sex or that femmes are the only ones with trauma around their bodies? 27. Why don't we own more property? 28. How did the Oakland/Bklyn connection emerge? 29. Why do people think it's funny for studs to dress up like femmes? 30. Why do people hate so hard on mothers who start dating women? 31. Why aren't queers more honest about the way so many are leading double lives? 32. Did we all have the pre-out, adolescent desire to be captured by a beautiful, self-assured lesbian (or insert corresponding self-projection here)? Just me? 33. Why do we only recognize effeminate Black gay male performance as performance? 34. Does the 'queer' label allow folks to emotionally detach from the depth and narrative of LGBT history? 35. Why is it weird to use condoms on a strap...how how how did micro-judgement make it into this situation? 36. Are there any awesome sex parties anymore? (Were there ever any?) 37. Do we recognize the ways in which we reaffirm and empower the various systems that we critique on a regular basis? 38. Does every homo know at least a dozen people who would be homo but just will-not-give-in? No? Just me? 39. In our prayers to whoever/however are we thankful for who we are or apologetic and abashed for how we've chosen? 40. What are we not telling one another? Admitting to one another? Forgiving in one another?
& youalreadyknow I want answers to one and all.
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